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Experiential therapy and the healing of trauma, Part 1
I just returned from the annual conference for Internal Family Systems in Providence, Rhode Island. While there Bessel van der Kolk, one the most well-known authorities in the field of neuroscience...
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Teddy Bears and Recovery
I received an email today which makes a claim that I have believed for a while. This email said that hugging a teddy bear can be a really comforting thing. Specifically, this email said that hugging...
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Blaming your spouse for your self esteem
You are responsible for your self esteem. It’s true. Ultimately, we are all responsible to take the actions necessary to help us feel good about ourselves. As children our parents were supposed to...
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Happy people and unhappy people
Happy, unhappy (Photo credit: xjki) My work often involves working with the internal “younger” parts of an individual that have been hurt by past events. As a result, I have to make sure that I put my...
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Question 1: Who should I talk to about this problem?
Who should I talk to about this problem? This is one of the first questions I encourage people to ask of themselves when things go seriously wrong. Why is this such a big deal? When facing a...
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The Four Questions
Things go wrong in our lives all the time. And when they do, some of us respond in ways that address the problem and typically bring us a measure of emotional comfort. However, others of us either...
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The human requirement for shared experience
Watching a movie trailer recently I had a renewed glimpse of the importance of having shared experiences with others. It is a critical part of living a full, meaningful life. To be honest I can’t...
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How to share yourself with others and keep your dignity
I guess I’m stuck on the topic of personal sharing at the moment. This and the two previous posts concern this topic. But, I think each post hits the topic a bit differently, so here goes! The topic...
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A short summary of what you probably already know about developing good self...
Throughout this blog it is my passion that my readers feel better about themselves after spending time here. It’s what I care about most, and my best gift to offer you. So, at the risk of seeming...
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Make a list of those who have loved you
Who has loved you? Many people who come to see me have had lives that were deficient in wholesome love, especially during their early childhood years. This has cast a pall over their emotional lives...
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